The family is mourning after the tragedy, Xiao Nan’s unfinished homework is on the table
It happened early in the morning
Xiao Nan lived in Lan Tian County, Shan Xi Province with his brother Xiao Jun and his grandparents. His mother, Mrs. Fan had a job in far away Xinjiang Provence and happened to be with them this month because she had to come back to reap the wheat.
6:15 in the early morning, Mrs. Fan woke up his little son, “hurry up, it’s time to go to school, and wake up your brother”. Xiao Nan got up quickly and said: “I don’t want to go to school today, my homework is not finished yet and I’m afraid that the teacher will beat me!”
But Mrs. Fan did not take his words seriously, she walked away to clean the yards. Minutes later, Xiao Jun rushed to her with astonishing news – Xiao Nan drank dichlorvos. Fan ran into the house, only to find the pesticide bottle containing a quarter kilogram dichlorvos was empty on the ground and the house was full of smelly odor.
She made Xiao Nan disgorge in the yards, but what he disgorged was so smelly and he could not stand up any more. They hurried to send him to the local hospital, but the doctor said he cannot survive. Not willing to accept the news, they got Xiao Nan to the Lan Tian County hospital, but received the same reply.
6 out of 7 homework were not finished
There was a shabby notebook in Xiao Nan’s schoolbag, which he used to write down the homework. His latest homework contained 7 items, including writing 20 times from memory the wrong questions, dictating 20 times the wrong words and so on. But only the 7th homework has been done.
In this very notebook writes Xiao Nan’s everyday homework. Most of the time he had 7 items a day, but there was also over 10 a day. Only this time he had not marked “ok” on each item of the homework.
“He will mark after finishing the homework, but the night before it happened, he was playing with his brother and did not finish it on time,” said Mrs. Fan. Xiao Nan was naughty, and his grades were just so so, but he is kind of sensible.
Why should I earn money without him?
In order to make a better living, Xiao Nan’s parents went to Xinjiang to work when he was only 1 year old. And because of the long distance, parents could only come back at the Spring Festival and the time to reap wheat, which lasted no more than 1 month each time. There was even not a single photo of Xiao Nan in his home.
“I can never forget the way he struggled in my arms.” The sudden strike made Fan desperate and she kept asking herself the purpose of going out for work and taking little care about her son. “Why should I earn money anymore without my son?” She cried.
What made him give up his life?
Why did he have to drink pesticide? Fan thought it had to do with what Xiao Nan said before.
“The homework is too much, he cried out for not able to finish homework every night these days.” Fan said, she and other relatives have asked Xiao Nan’s classmates, many of whom complained about too much homework. They also said the teacher will beat whoever cannot finish homework in time and Xiao Nan was often one of them.
Xiao Nan’s family thought that his death was not directly related to school, but the heavy load of homework and teacher’s abuses indirectly led him to kill himself. “I regret very much for not taking care of my son, but the school has responsibility too,” said Fan.
Leftover children, lack of love
Song Xin from Shan Xi psychological education institute thought that the school is only the fuse of the incident. The most important thing is that the child did not feel love. She suggested to families which parents are working outside to come back to their children, especially mother should bring love back so that the children have a healthy mind.
Hearing about Xiao Nan’s story, Song felt heart breaking. She inquired about his family and said that the pressure from school is just a fuse; the key thing was he lacked in love and security. Leftover children like Xiao Nan often live with old people and lack communication. They cannot form a good learning and living habits, thus they are easy to get into trouble.
“The intimate relationship between parents and children is very important when the kids are young. This kind of children lack love but fill with anxiety and fear, which let them to give up their lives,” said Song. This kind of children cannot get on well with other people or are easy to get divorced when they grow up.
Except from family, the school should learn lessons. Teacher should have more communication with parents and let them know what their kids do at school to prevent the tragedy from happening. As to leftover children, school should keep an eye on them and give them more love.
The school said they will guide students from mind
When asked about whether homework is heavy or not, Xiao Nan’s classmates responded quickly: “Not very much now, only one or two.” They all had the same homework notebook as Xiao Nan’s before but was collected a couple of days ago by teachers.
According to them, Xiao Nan was beaten by the teacher before and he cried for that. “The teacher does not only beat him, anyone who cannot finish his homework will get the same punishment.”
The headmaster of the primary school Li Xiangru explained that teachers were required not to give more than half an hour of homework. As to the items on Xiao Nan’s notebook, he said that they should be done in class. He knew that Xiao Nan was unattended child until recently and had inquired his class adviser Zhao but who said she did not punish her students.
“Physical punishment is forbidden in this school and we did not received any complains from parents. We are so sad that the tragedy happened in our school, and I promise to hold class meetings to guide students from mind and to prevent this kind of things from happening again,” said Li.