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Recently a viral video broke out on the Internet: In a crowded subway, a woman was angrily cursing at a man, apparently her boyfriend, sitting next to her. The woman speaking in a typical Beijing accent continuously scolded her boyfriend, said “man without money is garbage” and do not dream to marry her without money. Though being verbally abused in public, wearing a hat, boyfriend kept his head down quietly. Girlfriend did not stop cursing, and called the man “useless” for not responding. Finally, the woman said they are through and stormed off the subway. This video stirred up heated discussions, most people criticized the woman’s behavior, but some speculated it to be a publicity stunt. Fake or not, what it touches is definitely real issues in the society.
Look at you, you are useless, why am I going to marry you? You don’t have money. Man without money is garbage.
Look at you, you are useless, why am I going to marry you? You don’t have money. Man without money is garbage. And I am telling you, this morning when we are shopping, what’s the problem of spending some money? Being next to you feel like a joke, you know. You said you are going to take care of your parents, what about my parents? … I am telling you, no money… when I think of it I feel so scared, you know. Say something… You don’t even say anything, you are useless, you will have nothing in the future. You want to marry me? Forget it. Always like this… Say something… Ok, that’s it, we are through. Forget it. It is impossible now, I am moving out tonight. You are still like this? Forget it. Bye bye.
The following is the movie trailer for 巨额交配 “A Big Deal” direct translation is “mating of enormous amount (of money)” mating（交配） is a pun of transaction （交易）which will start showing on December 2, 2011 in China.
How much money does a man need to have in order for you to marry him?
Woman 1: “Monthly income at least 5000 – 6000”
Woman 2: “Monthly income over 10,000”
Woman 3: “Monthly income over 10,000, I think this is the most basic in a big city.”
Man 1: “I think for most women they have to think about if they are good enough for asking so much. If she is like sister Furong, or sister Feng, why is she asking so much? Sister Feng even wants Edison Chen.”
Woman 4: “New house… car… then ok.”
Man 2: “No house, no car, no saving, then don’t even consider, it makes me angry, because I am like that.”
Woman 2: “I feel no house means not secure, therefore house is required.”
Man 3: “Do you know how much it cost to buy a house now around Sanhuan and Sihuan (districts in Beijing). Cheap ones cost 1-2 million, better ones for 3-4 million. What does that mean? If I have that much money I can find a Xiaojie (sex worker) everyday. Continue for 20-30 years and no repeats each day. For example when a girl is dating you and ask, ‘Do you have a house a car?’ you say no, and she says, “Then why are we still dating?” Then you can say, what do you have that I have to have a house and a car? Do you look like Ling Chi-ling, or Marilyn Monroe?”
Woman 5: “For sure have to look at the financials. My living standard is here, if I find someone who is here (lower) so when we get together I have to be here too, so for sure it does not work.”
Man 4: “I have confidence, what do I care to have house and car.”
Man 5: “Marriages not based on love are as if behaving like a hooligan.”
Woman 5: “Love not based on marriage are as if behaving like a hooligan.”
Man 3: “If You don’t have money, don’t have a house, I wont marry you. This kind of woman, If I meet this kind of woman, just one word. ‘Get Lost!’”
How much money does a man have to have for you to have a kid?
Woman 3: “Saving more than 300,000, then I consider having kids.”
Woman 2: “Under the condition of having a house, must have 400,000 – 500,000.”
Woman 6: “If you want me to give birth, my conditions are: 1. minimum of 100,000 in savings. 2. we must have a house that my husband and I live in by ourselves.”
Man 3: “Get married and having a kid really cost that much money?”
Woman 4: “I feel that if you have a kid, you have to take care of him/her. If you can’t guarantee him a good living environment at least similar environment as kids of the same age around him. (if not) I feel the kid’s mind will easily be twisted.”
Woman 2: “If the conditions are not met then I will not choose to have a kid.”
Man 5: “Therefore money is second. ‘Having 1-2 million then I have a kid’, the problem is you don’t need 1-2 million to have a kid, this kind of money is enough to raise him even.”
Woman 7: “First we need to be able to afford to give birth to him, just to give birth will cost 100,000 – 200,000. Then he has to go to school, he has to go aboard after schooling. Then it will coast 1-2 million. Then he has to get married, another 1-2 million. So to me, minimum is 5 million.”
Man 4: “I think what she loves is the 5 million not me. I will not marry her, very simple.”
If a man doesn’t have this money, is he garbage?
Woman 5: “I feel in deed salary is a standard to measure man’s ability.”
Woman 3: “If I make more money than my husband, I will care.”
Woman 8: “Wanting a better life but hoping wife to make more money, that is for sure not acceptable.”
Woman 7: “The society today, money is the more realistic standard to measure a person’s ability.”
Man 4: “Then she should marry money instead. What she wants is not a man, she wants money. Her brain is rotten, full of glue. Her outlook on life is totally collapsed. She has no meaning living in this world, in my opinion.”
Woman 6: “In my mind, I can afford whatever I want to buy and I can afford whatever I want to eat , I think that’s enough.”
Man 4: “Typical rotten mind, talking nonsense. If my other half says all she wants is to eat anything she wants and to buy anything she wants, then I thinks she doesn’t love me at all she only wants is to have a contract to sell her body.”
Woman 1: “Why don’t you ask men directly rather asking women – do you think you should have money?”
Man 1: “I think men and women should be equal in this society. Why do men have to have so much money? Why don’t women make money and asking men to take care of them?”
Man 2: “I think this should be looked at from a future prospective.”
Woman 9: “He is saying that he will work hard, but I feel anybody can just talk and don’t act on it. There is no point, don’t just say it, do it and let me see the result.”
Woman 4: “If he has no desire to do better, depressed all the time and plays all day long. I think that is not far from garbage.”
Woman 2: “Satisfied with current condition, no special big goals and feels happy about the current living situation; I think this kind of man is garbage.”
Woman 6: “No desire to do better, no foundation and looks ugly, I think man like this is same as garbage.”
Man 3: “To woman that says ‘man without money is garbage’, I think this kind of woman is most suitable to work at a night club or become someone’s mistress so her chance of meeting garbage will decrease.”
If you think man without money is garbage then is what between a man and woman a large transaction?
Woman 7: “(Marriage) is actually like negotiating a business transaction, must keep clear and rational. First thing is to protect oneself.”
Man 5: “If woman must sell themselves like objects, then ok, no problem. But I don’t care to buy it.”
Woman 4: “All the animals in the world, their mating are all based on materials. I think this kind of so-called ‘large money mating’ is needed. I think no matter human or animals, this kind of matting always require one to have something which attracts the other.”
Woman 5: “This is just like you are responsible for making money and support the family, I am responsible for looking pretty like the flowers. For example, I am going to demand you with my ability of making money. If you make 2000 a month, don’t expect her to have size 36 c cup chest, or 168cm-170cm tall, that is not realistic.”
Man 1: “Actually those woman who only look at money, those women who use their youth between 20-35 for a business trade, they are so sad. Her youth only lasts 5 years, she wants to trade her best thing as an object for a better value, actually very sad, they are very sad.”
Woman 5: “It’s not that if I find someone rich, for sure I will not have love. If given that I have true love and I find someone with money, why not?”
Man 2: “I think if women are so realistic, why should we give our true love? right?”
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