Young compensated dating girls in Shanghai

| November 24th, 2011

From China News Weekly:

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Enjo-kōsai (援助交际) shortened form enkō (援交) means "compensated dating" and is a practice which originated in Japan where older men give money and/or luxury gifts to attractive women for their companionship and, possibly, for sexual favors. The female participants range from primarily school-aged girls to housewives.

In 2006, Japanese freelance writer Nakayama Miri wrote in her autobiography My Notes on Compensated Dating at Age Sixteen, “in Tokyo downtown shopping district, I was driving a remarkable red sports car, living in high-end luxury homes. Open the door, a very soft and spacious bed, rolling in the ecstatic bed sheets… but now there is not a trace, leaving only a memory, quietly floating in the air.”

This is a compensated dating girl remembering her painful past; she would like to tell the future generations, the past that remained in her heart, will ferment slowly in the future, until it is too late to repent.

Her words did not alert the world.

The first week of November 2011, Shanghai prosecutors disclosed a case which involved more than 20 middle/high school girls in compensated dating. In this case, most of the female students are under 18, the youngest is less than 14 years of age. This case caused public uproar which rippled through the entire country; however the topic of compensated dating still appeared to be ambiguous in Shanghai.

The case

There are dozens of schools scattered in Shanghai Hongkou District, various brand of motel chain also operated in this business circle. Schools, hotels and various “love business” chain intertwine here.

20111123-comensated-dating-03In the news on November 7, Motel 168 near Guangling Road became the headline picture. In the news 20 neotenous female high school students, in order to have more spending money, but also don’t want to earn it through work, went into the hotel chain and became prostitutes, two of them were under 14 years of age.

Public information revealed on November 5th by Shanghai Zhabei Procuratorate said, these more than 20 compensated dating girls had complex relations with each other, most of them are students in school, involved in 9 Shanghai vocational schools and high schools.

According to reports, when Xiaowen, Pingping and Nana started engaging in prostitution, they were all under 18. Xiaowen and Nana are childhood friends. Due to family misfortune, Nana dropped out of the school and had been wandering in the streets. Pingping and Xiaowen are classmates. Since 2009, they communicated through the Internet and telephone etc.. introduced each other or introduced other young girls to have sex with clients, and also collected service fees and referrals fees.

Shanghai Zhabei Procuratorate published a signed article in the local media, said these female high school students “organized prostitution, referred clients and formed a fixed circle, kind of like the so-called Enjo-kōsai in the Japanese society.”

20111123-comensated-dating-02After this statement, a Shanghai judicial system official complained to China News Weekly, what is compensated dating, it is clearly putting underage girls into prostitution. And the laws in our country do not have this word “compensated dating”. To this, another judicial system official said to China News Weekly how this case was disclosed was against common sense. “During the criminal investigation process, Public Security once wanted to reveal the case to the public, but considering this case was not so complicated and also the matter of projecting minors, they just handed case over to the Procuratorate. However the Procuratorate disclosed the case to the public and also labeled it compensated dating, which caused widespread of public attention, we could not explain, even the prosecutors are silent now.”

Once labeled, common people and the law professionals all raised eyebrows, began to speculate how the case will be tried. However, according to China News Weekly, the court had already come to a verdict before it went public. November 10, Zhabei District Court office staff on the phone told China News Weekly, the compensated dating girl case already had a verdict, but what kind of sentencing and punishments are not be disclosed because the case involved, after all, many minors. “The principle of the court had told us not to disclose the specifics to the media.”

The above message explained to some extent, why there are no more follow up coverage once the case went public.

Behind the prostitution initiative

“In order to make spending money, many girls initiated prostitution, referred prostitution and clients, also formed fixed circle, kind of like the so-called Enjo-kōsai in the Japanese society.” Zhabei District Procuratorate prosecutor handling the case told the local media, and described the case as "compensated dating."

Chief juvenile criminal prosecution Han Konglin said, these girls do not have a sense of shame towards money and sex trades. Some of the girls come from well-off families, they sell their youth simply because of vanity, love for shopping, pleasure and lack of spending money in hand.

According to investigation, these underage girls are Shanghai locals, from well-off families, but out of greed for money, they take the initiative to look for clients once low on cash.

Han Konglin said children involving in compensated dating “reflects on the absence of social and moral education by the family and school.” “Lack of communication between guardians and their children, too spoiled or too much abuse lead to failure in family education, so that minors walk the wrong path under unhealthy influences in the society.”

According to China News Weekly, among these students, one’s parents are divorced, one was adopted, three said their parents often abuse or overly spoil them. In late 2007, in a widely circulated forum post about Shanghai middle school prostitution, one netizen wrote enviously, “There is a woman started prostitution when she was 17, seven years later, she is now 24, do you know how much money she made? 2.4 million!”

This trend is still here today.

In this compensated dating case, when the prosecutor asked about Xiaowen’s family, Xiaowen said her parents are employees of state-owned enterprises, though not very rich but with a stable income. She also had fixed monthly allowance. But she thought, the money came too slowly, plus her poor academic performance, the school she goes to is a vocational high school, she has not much hope for her future, not to mention she said “I can’t put up with hardship”.

But it’s not just Xiaowen, everyone in this group had the desire of over-consumption, in the sex trade industry, supply began to form. “We play, shop for clothes, jewelry, eat, drink and seek excitement, all need money, over time the allowance parents give us was not enough. We came up with the idea of prostitution.” Xiaowen said. To them, there is no need to force each other, using their body to earn money has become part of their daily lives.

In the eyes of the general public, Shanghainese people are uniquely smart, have western culture and consumerism, but also save money at the same time. In Lisa Kwong’s book Shanghai Girls, she summed up Shanghainese especially girls as commonly competent and often like to compete with each other socially.

Xiaowen and her friends were also no exception. Although we did not find out where the money they made by selling their bodies went, but a Beijing media personal said, there are a wide range of luxury shops in Shanghai, being a Shanghai girl, having these brand name luxury items is most of their goals.

Losing Face

Middle/high school compensated dating girls incident has caught people of Shanghai by surprise, mainly because losing so much face. During China News Weekly interviews, both general public and experts all said “This is just one off case, a Shanghai local is rarely like that.”

In a vocational school in Jing’an District, a student being interviewed by China News Weekly said with certainty that these compensated dating girls are definitely not Shanghai locals, they should all be outsiders. His speculation did not come without its source. Even Xinmin Evening News (Shanghai local newspaper) reported the compensated dating girl case and especially emphasized the mothers of four students are married to Shanghai from outside.

One anonymous scholar came up with an official 2007 data which showed criminal information processed by Shanghai Minhang District People’s Court in the past ten years. Before 2000, the number of crime committed by outsider is around less than 600, from 2001 to 2002 the number increased to 697, a 18.92% increase rate. In 2004 the number of criminals who are outsiders was over 1000, in 2006 it was 1971 people. Non-local criminals are more than 70% of the total criminals.

This led the scholar more willing to believe, “even though there are local students in this compensated dating case, they were influenced by the bad outsider students.”

In addition, director the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences Youth Research Center, Yang Xiong said, “In fact, the bigger the city is, the proportion of underage student students having sex is lower.”

Yang Xiong researched on underage sex in 5 major cities and also some rural areas in the country for 15 years. He said, after the compensated dating girls case, people think high school students in Shanghai are more sexually active and there is a very serious problem. However this thinking has no basis.

In the contrary, Yang Xiong is more willing to believe that because of academic pressure, seniors of junior and high school have the lowest percentage in early sexually activities. Also because of the One Child Policy, parents are paying more attention when students go into puberty. However there are probably more early age sexual activates in vocational schools, “after all, vocational schools students are examination-oriented education losers”.

But in Shanghai, media simply reports the case has to do with the following three factors: family, society and school. And there is no news from these three factors, all various departments shut up, despite how the media knock on the doors.

A media commentator said, although the compensated dating girl incident made people of Shanghai to lose face, but this kind of exposure helps in prevention.

Actually, China News Weekly already noticed during their visit to several vocational schools and middle/high schools in Jing’an, Hongkou, Zhabei, Yangpu District, not only number of security guards on patrols has increased, some schools already notified teachers to strengthen students’ ideological and moral education.

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  1. Zvi says:

    Compensated dating is basically what girls have always done, since the beginning of time, however people only ever complain about it when the compensation is high and the girls are pretty. If a man complains about that, then he just sounds emasculated.

    • Agreed says:

      The real reason women get alarmed by compensated dating is that it shows what a scam marriage in general is.

      The *whole* thing is about money. And these young girls have a better, faster business model than their competition who are looking for the big score.

      And yes, men who complain that this is unethical are spineless little man-slaves who grovel on their knees before the women in their lives, who have twisted their once masculine minds into servile little female organs.

  2. Darlene says:

    ” strengthen students’ ideological and moral education.” Is this a joke? If you force me to learn this crap, I will prostitute myself too.

  3. Harland says:

    This isn’t compensated dating, this is straight up prostitution. Stop calling it that.

    In compensated dating the men don’t have sex with the girls. It’s just being in their company. It’s a unique Japanese thing and to explain it would involve the etymologies of several Japanese words and this is more typing than I’m willing to invest.

  4. Curren$y says:

    Shanghai is the best city in the world.

  5. B-real says:

    the whole marriage thing in China is compesated dating. But money trades more hand and it gets a license in most cases.
    Lets break it down.

    Man meats woman
    Woman gets acquainted with man (30 day free trial)
    Man wants proposes to woman
    Woman drafts a contract of conditions as followed: Hand in marriage and child requires home for us, home for mom and dad if not divorced then home big enough for all us to live under 1 roof. Monetary compensation is up for negotiation pending the size of the dowry initially offered by your family. During marriage salary and gifts regiments. I require a XXXX amount of funds as well as my mother and father require xxxx amount of funds in order to keep harmony in the house hold. Every period of which you receive your salary I would expect a lavish gesture of appreciation of our arrangement with precious stones or metal if not able or willing to purchase such gift I still accept additional funds on top of my regular salary.In the event you are not able to provide what is stated above, I will file for a divorce and the law will bring about another contract on which another compensation arrangement shall be drafted for the remainder of our child’s life as a minor pending he or she is to become a student at a university.

    In exchange I am legally bonded to provide sex upon request with in reason. The frequency of such act is negotiable. Within X years your decision to have a child or not is needed to be decided. In the event that im not able to provide a child with in stated time frame you may choose to file for a divorce. In the event that I produce a male child a bonus or gift is required .

    Regardless of our infidelity if our agreement is not fulfilled to satisfactory we must null or void the marriage in a divorce effective as soon as possible.

    Marriage in China is legal prostitution with a hint of emotions. Just because kids found away to cut a few strings go under the radar and its beneficial to both parties.

    • Huzhang says:

      I lol’d

      If you’re a black guy you’re the most articulate one I’ve met

      • shh says:

        If you’re a Chinese guy, you’re the most typical one I’ve ever met.

      • B-real says:

        Im flattered and insulted at same time. I don’t know how you got I am “black” which I am in that but more power to your bigoted observation.

        • Huzhang says:

          Didn’t you say you were black? Or was that someone else
          It’s a compliment man, better than you’ll get from most Chinese people

          • Whatever says:

            And you have no social graces whatsoever. But hey that’s a compliment coming from me man. Most people would just call you clueless.

        • rustytrombone says:

          What are niggers doing in China, or Asia for that matter? Good luck finding an Asian girl to rape, they all prefer White men – we treat them better. Go find a fat White girl to be yo’ “baby-mama”.

          • bigstrummer88 says:

            What a sad loser you are, rustytrombone. I bet you are one of those innumerable fat ugly balding white guys who have gone to Asia to try (emphasis on the word “try”) to get a girlfriend. Whether you get a date or not, it is clear that you are and always will be a loser. I suggest you go back to your porn and whack off now. Be nice and avoid ordinary people.

    • nulle says:

      sad, but true…

  6. bigstrummer88 says:

    It’s funny – this article is entirely about the “morality” of the prostitute girls, and their apparent ability to spread immorality.

    However, there is no mention AT ALL of the questionable morality of the corrupt adult men who hire children for sex.

    Let’s get this straight: the worst crimes in these cases are those committed by adults against children. Any “immorality” in the children was spread to them by corrupt adults – the men who hire child prostitutes, the parents of child prostitutes who pay no attention to the emotional state of their kids, the adult-generated forces in society that promote materialism at any cost.

    The simplistic tendency in both China and Japan is to think of these girls as criminals rather than child victims of adult criminals. This is a sad commentary on both Chinese and Japanese understanding of both the rights of children and gender roles. In other words, the conventional thinking is:

    “Females, regardless of age, are clearly the root of sexual immorality; males, regardless of age, are simple victims or innocent bystanders.”

    Sorry, Chinese and Japanese people who believe this: you are wrong. Get your collective heads out of your butts and recognize the basic facts: men and women are equally capable of morality and immorality; however, adults are ALWAYS responsible for the morality of children, NEVER the other way around.

    These prostitute girls are victims of corrupt adults: men who buy sex from kids, dysfunctional parents, and a corrupt, materialistic society created and ruled by adults.

    These kids should be offered help and sympathy to overcome their problems. Their male adult patrons are criminals and should go to jail. Their parents need psychological treatment. They are unfit to be parents. And the adults (for example, political and business leaders and ordinary citizens) in this society need to question and ultimately reject many of their prized “values” which are actually corrupt, immoral, inhuman, and distorting.

    Bottom line: children are pure but are made impure by adults. We must help kids who behave immorally, not blame them. We must blame adults who made them behave immorally.

    • B-real says:

      Well this is the hypocrisy of law making. There are punishments for these men as well once caught but the problem is not them if you don’t stop source of market. These girls supply a demand. wether you know it or not most men want really young women, its not really uncommon and it wast frowned upon until some lawyer likes fucking under age girls daughter was on the receiving end of some old man dick dick.

      Generations of civilization had to be educated that these acts were wrong even when marriage was approved and consented by said minors and parental units. In some instances infants and preteens are not to be touched but anything above is debatable whether understanding what they are getting them selves into. With all that said in society if a teenage is allowed to have sex and have children then it really shouldn’t really matter how old of a penis and or vagina is involved in a non deviant fully consenting relationship.

      These “kids” as you put it chose the direction they were in based off their current situation as being underage and were limited on ideas to make money to provide for themselves. Morality or lack there of may have played a big part of it but on the other hand but I anyone would be naive that their organization was more capitalistic at heart. In todays society morality in law is only gaged by how much taxes these girls were not paying off their profits.

      These were not children when they make adult decisions like this. Society plays a part of it but its up to them to ultimately decide.

    • Huzhang says:

      That’s going too far.

      Personal responsibility doesn’t just start when someone turns 18, the kid does have a share of the blame, however minor compared to the adult. You only think they don’t because the media portrays every sex crime as a wholly innocent vs a guilty party. This would not hold if it was some other immoral act, say, the kid decides to do some drugs.

  7. dilladonuts says:

    As usual, the rotten Shanghainese blame the wai di people….

    This has nothing to do with wai di people, and has everything to do with the extremely vain society the kids are growing up in. Shanghainese view themselves as the highest of classes, when in fact they are the lowest of all.

  8. bigstrummer88 says:

    These kids have mental / emotional problems. They live pathetic, screwed up lives that they will regret once they have grown up. They need help, not judgment.

    If one is shocked by prostitution, or to the extent one believes there is anything immoral or criminal about these 15-year old girls doing it, one must then recognize that such immorality or criminality is very minor compared to that of the loser adults who buy 15-year old kids’ bodies for sex.

    This is simple logic. If there was no demand, there would be no supply. “Mature”, sex-buying men are far more to blame than any immature 15-year old girl who sells it.

    Only an idiot would not understand this.

  9. Wenrui says:

    “Some of the girls come from well-off families, they sell their youth simply because of vanity” – WTF is this crap?!! These girls are in high school or middle school, right? I mean, living in an environment where dyeing your fingernails will be punished, wearing school uniform is required and hairstyle and even sitting position have standards, you actually think these girls have a chance to show vanity? I think it’s rather because such life make them feel dying so that they’d like to go out to seek for some fun. Oh, by the way, I can gain money in that way!

  10. Kochigachi says:

    This happened long ago even before Homo erectus (Neanderthal) days, young & attractive women always played money/luxury cards to get what they wanted but according to Bible, Koran and many well-known religious codes this is sin. God gave young women with gift to attract healthy men to bear child and populate the world not to use it for their own selfish gain. After death, these women sold their youth to older guys for money/luxury goods will be judged in hell.

  11. jimjam says:

    oh well…its the way of another culture….you might think different if the shoe was on the other foot!

  12. Kola1934 says:

    I looking for young girl friend

  13. George says:

    Fantastic people! Well said, all of you! Hats off!! Half way through reading this thread I realized that religion was talking against naturalism against socialism ! Ahh beautiful! You see, many thanks for vindicating it. We have here too many opinions struggling to find a standing and justify their position. ‘God gave woman ‘ etc etc bullshit!! Fantastic! “Some of the girls come from well-off families, they sell their youth simply because of vanity” – phenomenal!! “These kids have mental / emotional problems” – classic line!! The most exciting script I have ever read was between whoever it was saying that the children know what they are doing and should be culpable… Exciting in as much as I now know that such idiots exist in the world!!! I don’t have to worry so much about my own existence, and whether or not I will be content!! Knowing that fucking idiots like you are out there just makes me realize that prostitution will always be around. Because let’s face it, if we can make a market out of feeding lesser individuals our shit, then all we need is someone lesser than ourselves! And prostitutes are rated very highly in this scale! Oh by the way, I have a sudden craving for someone to spread shit all over my body while standing my face into the ground and raping me with a strap on… Is there a market for that?? Of course there fucking is!! Grow the fuck up, and try and regain some fucking masculinity by taking responsibility for the shit that you desire – you complete fucking morons !!!! that goes for religion too. God is one and the same voice as your inner ethic and modality. If you need him to exist, ok. But don’t fucking use that as an excuse to not take responsibility for your inner demons!! Mate, we all fucking have them! The bigger man admits that… We do what we want to. All of us. From the highest of society to the lowest – whether in riches or in poverty, we all only do one thing: that which makes sense in the moment. And as I assume none of you have been in the moment of each thing you are commenting on which actually relates to a real person, then I assume you all have no right to comment on that persons actions whatsoever – or at least without any conviction! And so, thank you. Oh look, the sun is about to rise again. Hmmmm… I just wonder what tomorrow will bring?? Any guess anyone????

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