The following is a forum post on MOP:
Translated by Jue, edited by Key
Chinese brides account for 72% on average of the foreign wives South Korean men marry. In 2006, tens of thousands South Koreans married foreign women including around over 10 thousand Chinese girls. However, in the same year, only 2,590 Chinese men married Korean women. That means in the transnational marriages between China and South Korea China "exports" 4 times women than it "imports" which is equivalent to sending about 10 thousand Chinese women to South Korea and adding 10 thousand Chinese bachelors. So people often say humorously, in the past China sent those "volunteers" to support the Korea War and now China again sends "an army of women" to assist marriages in South Korea. But, who will come over to support Chinese men?
There’s serious imbalance of sex ratio in China, but this country which lacks women the most has become the country that "exports" women the most. As a result, many countries have drawn a conclusion that China has made more progress than other countries in aspect of marriage. But is that true? I’m afraid nobody agrees to it.
Among the female students studying abroad, honestly many have successfully finished their studies and came back home. For those foreign men, it’s not easy to pursuit an oriental beauty. If I remember correctly, an overseas student once told me, "When living abroad, you would find, as time passes by that those foreign men are not as good as people always say. They have many habits which are not suitable for Chinese women in terms of culture, diet, communication and other areas.
There are many local men hitting on Chinese overseas students, but most of them are just flirting with Chinese girls so the smart ones won’t accept such pursuit. Of course, some easy girls still accept it or even using that to actively seeking for ways to permanently stay abroad, for their "face" (or Mianzi) and "status". However, in most cases, after graduation the couples end up going their separate ways, and those girls who supposedly "lost faith in love" carry their luggage and go back to China, even say Chinese guys are still better. I didn’t say that, but I heard it with my own ears!
Sure enough, most overseas students who have come back may not treat foreigners that enthusiastically and optimistically. Maybe in their eyes, there’s not much difference between East and West. However, things are quite the opposite domestically. First, let’s not talk about marriage yet, we can find a phenomenon in many universities that no foreigners (men) remain bachelordom and they all have a beautiful Chinese girl accompanied. Not just those who study in China, only a few foreigners (men) in China are still single, I am just guessing, because where I live the foreigners walk in and out with Chinese girls all the time.
Looking for a foreign boyfriend, to tell the truth, in most cases is for money, and I can guarantee this. Can you see the expression in their eyes, the girls that are with foreigners? I smirked. People always say there are no words written on one’s face, but these girls’ faces are filled with arrogance and vanity. May I ask, how many girls can these foreign students take home after studying aboard? And how many girls will come back home once taken abroad? A women from Shanghai said, "Shanghai women were born for foreigners." I just wanted to say to her “you don’t deserve to be a Chinese.”
Actually most girls have foreigners as boyfriends to satisfy their vanity, or rather, they just worship foreign things, believing everything abroad is better than in China. As if their heads just been kicked by a donkey! Of course, I don’t oppose having foreign boyfriends. Everyone is equal in the name of love and everyone wants a happy family, which is not the privilege of foreigners. But a sweet family is built on the basis of love, you won’t get your happiness if your husband is a playboy even if he’s a god.
It’s kind of exaggerated when I said foreigners came to China to "grab" Chinese girls, but it originally came from one of my friends. Once there were several westerners talking on the subway, their conversation was heard by a man who knew English. They were talking about how many Chinese girls they had been with and one of them said five and soon got laughed at, and then another man said he had been with more than 10. Why is that? One of them added, it was easy to get a Chinese girl and most of them even ask foreigners out first. As long as you take a girl somewhere fancy, you won’t fail to get her even if she had a boyfriend then. He also said Chinese women are way too "stupid". Well, this is what the foreign students think of our "female students". Certainly it didn’t represent the thoughts of all the foreigners, but it was enough to tell us what our female students are like in those foreigners’ eyes.
Then we go back to see how the girls worship foreign things. Sometimes some female students go buy something in the store but speaking in English. Others think they are foreigners and the store owner also is puzzled. But as they get out of the door and speak fluent Chinese, we then realize they are just fooling the store owner.
However, there are quite a few happy transnational families. In fact, many foreigners living in China for long have already got accustomed to the Chinese lifestyle both in culture and diet. The only thing left is whether they can stay in China and live a normal family life. Of course, when coming into Chinese society, there’s no boundary when it comes to love. Chinese people and foreigners are the same except for their skin and appearance.
Back to the point, love cannot be possessed by worshipping foreign things, nor can happiness be gained by marrying a foreign man. Moreover, they are not what you take to show off. If you do so, you give us a reason to despise you rather than envy you.
It should be stressed again that there’s serious imbalance in sex ratio in China, but we seldom see overseas (male) students take foreign wives home. On the contrary, we always find foreigners take Chinese women abroad. To make things worse, almost all the foreigners coming to China have Chinese girls’ accompanied they wish!